I Was In An Abusive Relationship And What I Really Needed Was Community

What do we actually expect people to believe? Why wouldn’t I think it was a “me” problem? Why wouldn’t I think that his behavior was nothing else but uncontrollable love? That’s what he was saying, anyway. And after the repeated chorus of “but they’re such a nice person,” from everyone you know, you start to have doubts that it's not just…you.

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A Conversation Around Teen Dating Violence

Teen dating violence (TDV) is especially harmful, particularly because many teens who experience it do not identify as victims/survivors, do not know they have autonomous legal rights as victims/survivors, and do not know where to turn to for help. Teens are also at an impressionable age, their minds are still developing, and in these formative years the abuses they may encounter are likely to instill long term and lasting effects that will shape the way they see themselves and how they get involved in, interact in, and maintain future relationships. Because of this, it is very important for teens to learn, as early and from as many adult sources as possible, what a healthy relationship is, how to model it, and where to get help if they are being abused by someone they have developed a relationship with.

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